Post Information
You are reading The Rejection & Other Tales…. You can leave a comment or trackback this post.
Mumspace Members
Categories
Recent Posts
Recent Comments
Archives
The Rejection & Other Tales…
Posted on September 24th, 2008 by darnonymous.
Categories: Uncategorized.
I have been a total Blog slacker! Just haven’t wanted to be stuck inside on the computer, which is definitely a good thing for me!
As if my self-esteem was not at an all-time low lately, I got a ‘thanks but no thanks’ rejection letter for the job I applied for a couple of weeks ago. I was pretty peed off, apparently some bastard I used to work with (who was NOT one of my employers as listed on my resume!) felt they had the right to give me a bad reference! I know exactly who the petty shithead was! I totally expect something like that from him, but I am more peed about the fact that the HR person checking my references couldn’t even be bothered talking to my past bosses, but have obviously just spoken to the first person who answered the phone! Just my luck it would be that ass!
But it turns out that it was for the best, as a few days later I was struck down by the dreaded morning sickness bug!! Yup, apparently I am pregnant!
You know how you hear those cases of teen mums who say something like ‘we were using protection but got pregnant anyway’ & you secretly think to yourself ‘yeah right, that shit doesn’t really happen’. Who knew?!
When you are young & carefree you try like hell to not get pregnant. Then when you do want to have a baby you discover that there are a lot more mechanics to it than you assumed. As all those other mums out there will know, there are in fact only 3 days in your ‘cycle’ where you can get knocked up, so that narrows it down to about 36 days in a year for an average woman. Then there are the cases like mine (& sadly about 1 in 3 other women these days in our chemically processed digital era) where you are not young & fertile with plenty of baby years ahead as you had assumed, but are in fact infertile with very irregular cycles & no chance of conceiving without artificial help. Considering it took almost 2 years & quite a few rounds of fertility drugs to conceive the first time, seriously, what are the odds that I of the barren womb would fall pregnant by accident whilst using contraception?!!
So of course this was a complete shock, & I went through a good week of ‘Oh shit! I am so not ready for this yet!’ moments! Marty of course was over the moon (being a Maori he’d love a whole footy team of kids!), & now I am very happy too.
We weren’t actually planning on having another baby for a couple of years, mainly because of Kaia’s rough start (prem born at 27 weeks). The Doctors tell me that because I went into premature labour for no apparent reason, there’s a 50/50 chance it may happen again. It may be the way my body reacts to pregnancy. The thought of having to go through the same thing again with another child is pretty heartbreaking. I saw how hard it was on the mums in the Neonatal ward who had another toddler at home, trying to be there for both kids.
But I will just do everything I can to make this time around smooth sailing, have regular appointments at the High Risk Obstetrician, & at least this time I will know the signs early if anything should go wrong!
At least this means we are definitely moving out of this little shitbox apartment in January when the lease is up! Yeehaa!! I ain’t doing up & down 3 flights of stairs every day with a pram & 2 kids! Not looking forward to the weeks of househunting again, & definitely not the actual moving part, but we have made the decision now to move down to South Sydney as we have heard from all our friends who live in that area that it is cheaper & better value for money. So I am looking forward to having a nice apartment & a new area again.
Off to the doc…
2 comments.
YAY Dar!!! *CONGRATULATIONS!!!!* Im so excited for you!! Remember before you even had Kaia, you had said you wanted your babies close together, so now its come true!! And I think if you keep a positive attitude and stay relaxed, your will have a perfect loooong pregnancy!!
Im sad that you are going to move South, and not NORTH, but thats just cos im selfish and want you closer, not further!
I hope you have a girl this time, but either way, its going to be a gorgeous baby just like Kaia is!!!
Xx Jess
WOW!!! Congrats to you and Marty and Kaia!! Thats fantastic!! It must be a sign that everything will go great if you fell pregnent so ‘easily’ this time lol! Shame about the job but sounds like its for the best now!! Sending you huge congrats and all the best
xxSiany